"So we are proud to reclaim the word “slut” as a term of approval, even endearment. To us, a slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you. A slut may choose to have sex with herself only, or with the Fifth Fleet. He may be heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, a radical activist or a peaceful suburbanite."
#The ethical slut
Sexual Health and Pleasure Education Hits College Campuses Nationwide
The Study Sex College Tour Launches Second Year of Vital Sex Positive Education
This fall, students will once again swarm college campuses across the nation. Rigorous courses will give them a chance to learn about almost any subject, but one important topic is frequently missing in this conversation: sexuality. Megan Andelloux, also known as “Oh Megan,” is a certified sexologist and educator who has created The Study Sex College Tour to fill this educational void.
Andelloux travels the country providing workshops that showcase how human sexuality can be presented in a fun and informative manner, while still meeting crucial educational needs. “The way sexuality is often discussed, especially with young adults, is based on shame and fear. Sexual health and pleasure should not be separated; to be effective and comprehensive, we must teach both. This tour is designed to further this idea and show that people who choose to be sexual can do so in ways that best fit their comfort levels and lifestyle. Information provided on this tour includes risk reduction and safer sex, as well as anatomy, pleasure, identity and more.”
Student groups that bring Andelloux to speak on their campus are entered into a competition where they are graded on their communication skills, program development, marketing and campus reach. At the end of each semester, the school with the highest overall score receives a basket filled with SSCT featured products. Andelloux states, “I’m very excited to be able to offer this competition as part of the tour. Not only are students learning about positive sexuality; they are also able to gain real world skills surrounding marketing, communication and working with other organizations. To be able to have such great companies supporting safer sex and sex-positivity for the younger generations makes this a beneficial situation for everyone involved.”
Founded in 2010, the Study Sex College Tour launched with the support of a select group of companies that promote sexual wellness and ethics. During the 2010-11 school year, Andelloux visited 37 campuses, including Duke, Chicago IIT, Brown University, UMass, and Wesleyan, providing almost a hundred hours of sexuality education across America. This year, the tour has expanded its partnerships, while maintaining relationships with repeat manufacturers such as Spareparts, Empowered Products, and OhMiBod. New companies on board include Aneros, Sliquid, Fun Factory, Toyfriend, Crystal Delights, Sportsheets, Kink Academy, and Sir Richard’s. This year, Good Vibrations will act as the official retailer for students attending workshops on the tour.
The Study Sex College Tour officially launches September 15th, 2011 and carries on through May 2012. Various colleges such as Northeastern, Brown, and Johnson & Wales have already signed up for Andelloux’s unique presentations that bring medically accurate and sex-positive education to adults.
For more information or to book Megan Andelloux, visit www.Ohmegan.com. Also check out the videos on YouTube (www.youtube.com/studysexcollegetour) and follow the Twitter hashtag: #SSCT. Megan Andelloux can be reached email@example.com or 401-345-8685.
It took me 18 years to learn that sex could be on my own terms.
Until then, my sex ed. had been standard: condoms, babies and birth control. Oh, and that video of a woman giving birth. I learned then that sex was something I would submit to, and probably not enjoy. And it would probably happen on someone else’s terms, because women don’t make the terms in sex ed. I also learned that women who didn’t follow those rules would be punished. I would be a slut. I would be without safety and without support.
It’s no surprise that that education didn’t get me far. Hell, I’m more surprised that I made it out alive and am standing right here, right now, in front of all of you. Because nobody in sex ed. told me how to ask for sex, or that I could. Nobody told me I had sexual rights. Nobody told me I deserved safety. And nobody told me about consent.
Consent is a powerful concept for our world, especially as it continues to struggle with victim-blaming, sexual assault, and misogyny. Because consent gets all of us talking about sex. To our partners. To ourselves. A world built on consent: no silence and no shame. One free from violence and coercion. One based in autonomy, respect, and power. A world where “no” is respected, and – more importantly – “yes” comes without consequences. Consent liberates us. It gives us a voice. A world built on consent is built on our terms. On our voices.
We’re all here today because we know our voices are important. We’re all here because we can’t sit down and be quiet. Because our voices are important and they need to be heard. Because we should be able to live on our terms.
#yes yes YES
How I Learned to Talk (In Bed): Why This Queer Woman Cares About Consent
Talking to someone is a great way to convince yourself that you actually understand how they’re feeling, and is extra helpful when you aren’t even sure how you’re feeling. In fact, it’s the only way to gather information on how your partner is feeling that’s accurate, unless you are a bona fide psychic. And so I started to talk. Let’s be honest: our first sexual experiences with women were awkward. Or scary – in the good way. Or clumsy. Or confusing. Or overwhelming. Right? It happens.
Talking made me feel more comfortable with what was going on, and allowed me to explore my sexuality more wholly. I started to ask, and suddenly it wasn’t that overwhelming. In fact, I really liked it. I really, really, really liked it. And I liked what consent added to the experience, too:
I started small, with basic consent questions.
“Is this okay?”
But sometimes life is a lot more complex than whether or not you’re having sex. Sometimes I had questions about feelings.
“Are you okay?”
Sometimes I had questions about the process.
“What do you want?”
Sometimes I was hoping to relieve my anxiety that I wasn’t doing too well.
“Did you like that?”
And I learned how to say yes, I did, or no, could you do this instead. But also: yes. I did.
“I really like this.”
Applying what I knew about consent helped me unpack my first sexual experiences. I felt present. Like I was finally living in my own body. I was finally enjoying sex, after a lifetime of waiting for that feeling. And I was finally learning to be comfortable with that.