keep it consensual: ask first!

impose: If you’re putting together a protest for Pussy Riot’s...

Fri, 17 Aug 2012 13:39:50 -0400

If you’re putting together a protest for Pussy Riot’s ridiculous two-year jail sentencing, leave us a comment here or tweet at us and let us know. Throughout today we’ll try and spread the word about rallies and protests!

carmenrios: i am not able to log into facebook until i...

Fri, 17 Aug 2012 13:29:00 -0400

carmenrios:

i am not able to log into facebook until i apologize for doing valid feminist work in the nation’s capital.

in the past few days, presumably, a woman named “kim” (i will not reveal her last name or her email address) reported some of the slutwalk content on my own profile (i am unsure which content, because i have not logged back in) as “offensive” or “harassment.” although she is referring to this past week’s 2012 slutwalk, i was only present in 2011, where i spoke and was therefore photographed.

her message to me, along with her contact information, was included in a facebook “checkpoint” which stops me from accessing my account until i accept that my involvement with last year’s DC slutwalk breeches the facebook community standards and guidelines. (as a point of clarification, valid reasons to be successfully blocked from your profile on facebook include nudity, stealing intellectual property, and inciting or threatening to commit acts of violence. i did none of the listed behaviors within the community standards document on facebook’s website.)

i refuse to click “continue” and re-enter my facebook because i should never have been interrupted. by clicking “continue,” i am apologizing for something i refuse to apologize for, and i am also allowing what occurred to occur again.

considering facebook tolerates racism, rape jokes, and other offensive material in the name of “free speech,” it is weird to be banned from my own account merely for doing social justice work. but it is at least good to know that i was correct to assume that the only speech freely allowed on facebook is white, cisgender, straight, male speech by individuals attempting to oppress everyone else.

for now you can reach me on twitter or even send me a message here on tumblr. i also have a google plus.

peace out, zuckerfuck.

remember when our CEO spoke at slutwalk? facebook has removed all proof it ever happened.

"While communicating consent may seem like it only matters in the early stages of a romantic..."

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 20:23:23 -0400

“While communicating consent may seem like it only matters in the early stages of a romantic...

itsgrowingbeautifully: went to a club tonight. wore my “got...

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 19:02:23 -0400

itsgrowingbeautifully:

went to a club tonight. wore my “got consent?” shirt. get at me. holllllllllllla

screamqueensradio: Rape is real. Consent is real.

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 17:36:50 -0400

screamqueensradio:

Rape is real.

Consent is real.

sexgenderbody: Black Teenage Girls’ Experiences with Sexual Coercion: Context, Coping, and Consequences

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 16:29:27 -0400

sexgenderbody: Black Teenage Girls’ Experiences with Sexual Coercion: Context, Coping, and...

BDSM 101

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 15:00:02 -0400

BDSM 101

"What those trying to aggressively market an ever more “exotic sex life” fail to realize is that..."

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 13:46:57 -0400

“What those trying to aggressively market an ever more “exotic sex life” fail to realize is...

whattheyareasking: “How can one engage in dirty talk if your...

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 12:28:40 -0400

whattheyareasking:

“How can one engage in dirty talk if your first impulse is to laugh at how silly you sound? What role does humor have in dirty talk, if any?”

"However, the biggest hurdle is that many societies don’t recognise young people as sexual beings...."

Fri, 27 Jul 2012 11:16:26 -0400

“However, the biggest hurdle is that many societies don’t recognise young people as sexual...

moderngirlblitz: fauxromantics: unapologetic feminist...

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 20:22:32 -0400

moderngirlblitz:

fauxromantics:

unapologetic feminist kill-joy

this person rocks my patch quite awesomely <3

"I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much more..."

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:40:34 -0400

“I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much...

snowstorminjuly: onesweetdream: Happy Valentine’s Day! We...

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 16:23:39 -0400

snowstorminjuly:

onesweetdream:

Happy Valentine’s Day!

We gave out these goodie bags at Simmons on Valentine’s Day. Each one had three condoms, two packets of lube, one dental dam, “75 ways to make love without doing it,” information on health ed at Simmons, how to use a dental dam and condom, and, of course, some Hershey’s Kisses. We gave out over 100 in an hour! Make it fun, make it safe, make it consensual! Love, Sex @ Simmons.

"The issue of “consent” encompasses the ways we ask for sex, and the ways we don’t. It’s about more..."

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 15:11:44 -0400

“The issue of “consent” encompasses the ways we ask for sex, and the ways we don’t. It’s about...

"‎Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh..."

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 13:47:54 -0400

“‎Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to...

jadepichette: POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa/Gatineau Work...

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 12:33:22 -0400

jadepichette:

POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa/Gatineau Work Educate Resist)

"Dear people who whistle, cat call, stare, grope, grab, “accidentally” brush by, start grinding on me..."

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 11:18:19 -0400

“Dear people who whistle, cat call, stare, grope, grab, “accidentally” brush by, start...

toolshedgirl: This is a campaign that my amazing students at...

Wed, 25 Jul 2012 21:32:22 -0400

toolshedgirl:

This is a campaign that my amazing students at Northwestern U are doing. Break up with sexual violence!

roxannewright: A lot people tell me that talking about sex with...

Wed, 25 Jul 2012 20:19:00 -0400

roxannewright:

A lot people tell me that talking about sex with your partner, laying out boundaries beforehand AND during, communicating and adjusting during, renegotiating boundaries during and after is awkward and “kills the mood.” Now frankly I don’t understand that, communication is awesome and usually makes the whole thing go smoother because I don’t have to worry about doing it right/the way they like it, but maybe it’s just that I’m an extremely verbal person and also tend to be very focused on my partner’s pleasure.

But for those of you who do think talking about the details of sex with your partner can be awkward, here are some useful phrases and ways to open the conversation.

"Because of their constant fear of rape (conscious or not), women do things throughout the day to..."

Wed, 25 Jul 2012 19:06:06 -0400

““Because of their constant fear of rape (conscious or not), women do things throughout the...