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(con)sensual is a dynamic, sex-positive campaign about enthusiastic consent. The campaign works to create safe spaces for dialogue on consent, educate college students about consent and their sexual rights, and encourage young people to integrate consent into their sexual practices. We love sex, and we love you. We live online here and on Twitter. (Our website is on the way.)

(con)sensual currently lives at American University in Washington, DC, where it was founded in 2009. The campaign will be available to all campuses nationwide within the year.

twitter.com/keepconsensual:

    Consent Workshop Resources

    catsluck:

    Love & Rage: CONSENT WORKSHOP RESOURCES!

    queerlyfantastical:

    (Source: complexuality, via mindovermatterzine)

    — 3 months ago with 445 notes
    #consent  #consent workshop  #resources  #oh look! 
    sparkamovement:


Deputy Chief Doug LePard says the Don’t Be That Guy campaign has contributed to a turnaround in statistics on sexual offences in Vancouver.
The rate dropped in 2011 by about 10 per cent, the first time in several years it had gone down.

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    sparkamovement:

    Deputy Chief Doug LePard says the Don’t Be That Guy campaign has contributed to a turnaround in statistics on sexual offences in Vancouver.

    The rate dropped in 2011 by about 10 per cent, the first time in several years it had gone down.

    Read more

    (via pluralisms)

    — 3 months ago with 494 notes
    #this is a classic reblog 
    "Sex education should focus not just on the mechanics of heterosexual sex and how to keep it safe – important as these are – but on varieties of sex. Sex between girls, sex between boys; the importance of enthusiastic consent – in effect, discussion of how to have good sex rather than just safe sex. The fact that girls as well as boys enjoy sexual activity is important to emphasise. I’ll never forget overhearing a conversation on a bus where a boy was asking a female friend of mine, both around 18, why girls masturbated. That alone demonstrates to me the need for better education."
    — 3 months ago with 1490 notes
    "So theories and pontificating aside, let’s add reality to the mix. The reality of what women, even feminists, find pleasurable is not always politically correct. Sexuality is not neat and clean. I have talked to many feminist women who struggle to balance what really happens behind closed doors and what they feel the bedroom politics of a “good feminist” should be. Enjoying BDSM, strap-on sex and sex toys, genderplay, rape and incest taboo, mainstream pornography, and other “deviant” sexual taboos with a consensual partner does not make a person a “bad feminist” or a hypocrite. To the contrary, feminism is what gave me permission to love sex, with myself and with others, to embrace my sexual orientation, and find out what turns me on. Pro-sex feminism argues that recognizing the role of fantasy in sexual arousal and coming out of shame about sexual desires opens the door to a more frank and honest discussion about women’s bodies, consent, and safer sex. And that leads to better, safer sex that encourages communication and complete, enthusiastic consent to sex that is fulfilling and healthy. How is that not feminist?"

    Feminist Porn: Sex, Consent, and Getting Off (via becauseiamawoman)

    feminists can have weird, kinky CONSENSUAL sex too!!

    (via exhale-dust)

    Yes, yes, yes, this is awesome

    (via feministfemmefatale)

    (via feministfemmefatale)

    — 3 months ago with 3433 notes
    "Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex."
    — 3 months ago with 20719 notes
    a hidden battle is taking place.

    lookarounditshappening:

    In the United States, women in the military are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier than killed by enemy fire.  Over half a million women have now been assaulted in the military & the Department of Defense estimates that approximately 19,000 military sexual assaults took place in 2010 alone.  

    I watched The Invisible War this week, a documentary that investigates the grossly unattended epidemic of rape & sexual assault in our military.  I was stunned, as I so often am, at how little I know about the realities around me.  How very much I live within untruths every day.  We entrust these soldiers with our guns, our weapons.  With trillions of dollars.  We live under the illusion every day that they can be entrusted with the impossible tasks of protecting our freedom, securing peace.  And yet, so many can hardly be trusted with the very simple task of respecting another human’s body & agency.  I tremble to think of how many other sexual atrocities have been committed outside the ranks - to civilians, to ‘enemies’.  Or perhaps the victims before Iraq & Afghanistan.  All those stories that have gone unsung.  And the men engraved so boldly on our monuments & scribbed in our books - what have we not been told?  So much, I fear.  Watch this film, share it, and pray that this may be a battle our country will one day win.

    — 4 months ago with 228 notes
    Sign our petition:

    nopfzs:

     

    Vote against making DC’s “Prostitution Free Zones” permanent.

    Greetings,

    The D.C. Council is currently considering the “Prostitution Free Zone Amendment Act,” which will affect sex workers, or anyone thought to be a sex worker. This new bill builds off the “Prostitution Free Zone Act of 2005,” which allowed the police to declare any public area a “Prostitution free Zone,” for up to 20 days — the new bill proposes to make such zones permanent. 

    These policies have done little to eradicate prostitution but have succeeded in further marginalizing sex workers, low income people of color, transgender people, lesbians and gays, and the homeless. In addition, making the Prostitution Free Zones permanent would likely be unconstitutional. 

    We do not need more policy that criminalizes people in our community. D.C. residents demand that the Council find solutions to city issues that don’t involve arresting and locking people up because they are homeless, transgender, or “look like” they are engaging in sex work. 

    Please make the right choice and vote against making the PFZ’s permanent.

    Sincerely,

    [Your name]

    Sign your name digitally to this letter and send it to the DC City Council here: #mce_temp_url#

    — 4 months ago with 92 notes
    goodconsentrules:

rachelrhoadesss:

idk about you but my mind filled in some blanks, consent is SEXY.

This is also from Learning Good Consent!

    goodconsentrules:

    rachelrhoadesss:

    idk about you but my mind filled in some blanks, consent is SEXY.

    This is also from Learning Good Consent!

    — 4 months ago with 81 notes
    The "Accidental" Rapist: the importance of clear-cut consent →

    Too many play what I call the stoplight game. Traffic signals, of course, have three colors: red for stop, yellow for caution, green for go. Good drivers are taught to stop on “red,” which functions as a “no.” But of course, even at the busiest urban intersections, no light stays red indefinitely. If you wait long enough at a stoplight, every red will become green. And when all we do is teach young men that “no means stop” when it comes to sexual boundaries, we often send them the message that if they just wait long enough (or pester, push, nag, beg, play passive-aggressive games) they’ll get the “green light” they’re so hungry for.

    (Source: treesong, via goodconsentrules)

    — 5 months ago with 76 notes
    #consent